Updated: Mar 23
You just answered “yes” to one of the most important questions you’ve ever been asked—and now it’s time to answer some other questions. You may want to jump right into wedding planning as soon as possible, but before you do, you and your fiancé need to take the time to ask, discuss, and agree on your answers to questions that will affect every part of your big day. Here are five to get you started:
1. How Much Can We Afford to Spend?
It’s no one’s favorite topic, but this is a discussion that needs to be had, so do it first and get it out of the way. Your wedding budget likely has a lot of factors to take into account. Will your parents pay for it entirely or will both sides split the cost? Will you and your fiancé pay equally, or will one of you spend more? Have you been financially preparing for this or was it a surprise? Do you want to get married soon or wait so you can save more? This may not be a romantic conversation, but it will set the tone for everything that comes after.
2. How Big of a Wedding Do We Want?
This is another important distinction to make. If you’ve always dreamed of an intimate affair with 50 of your closest friends and family and your fiancé has their heart set on inviting everyone from distant relatives to their high school English teacher, you need to agree on a compromise before you can officially set your budget and start viewing venues.
3. What’s Our Wedding Day Going to “Feel” Like?
From traditional and timeless to fun and destination-themed, there are limitless directions you can drive your wedding in. If your fiancé imagined a classic vibe with tuxes, a flower girl, and a wedding march, they may be surprised to hear you want to get married by your ordained best friend with your toes in the sand.
4. Who Is Going to Plan the Wedding?
Even if you hire a wedding planner to do the heavy lifting, at least one of you will need to work with them to ensure they understand your tastes and needs. Discuss how each of you feel about that and decide if you want to share equal responsibility or if one of you should take the lead. This way, there won’t be any future arguments about unmet expectations.
5. How Involved Should Our Friends and Family Be?
For some engaged couples, they have a vision of exactly how they want to plan their wedding and don’t want any outside influence. For others, the day wouldn’t be right if they didn’t plan it with the help of their friends and family. And some couples are a mixture of the two. If you decide you want complete control, it’s important that you explain this to anyone who may have been expecting to be involved to avoid hurt feelings.
Now that you know what questions to ask before you start planning your big day, it’s time to find the perfect place to spend it. Contact the experts at Crest Hollow Country Club and start planning today.